2007年9月26日星期三

Problems about Emotional Intelligence


There still are some problems facing anyone when they are talking about the emotional intelligence (EI) in families, though they have already heard about it. The most obvious problem may be that some families do not pay enough attention to children’s EI development. Parents take EI for granted and what they see is only the marks in exam papers and the success of academic performance. They seldom teach children how to be sympathetic to others, how to behave properly in different occasions, how to control their temper, how to release stress and so on. All these definitely will play significant roles in children’s lives in the future. For such families, what they should do first is to have a clear idea and realize the importance of EI. Once they get the right attitude towards EI, they may probably do better in helping young people develop their EI. The next problem is the conflicts between young people and family members, more often with parents. Initially, the conflicts may block the communication between parents and children. As a consequence, they might block the way for parents to help children to develop their EI. For instance, young people and parents may hold different opinions on the same issue. Once they cannot understand each other, conflicts may occur, quarreling or unwilling to talk with each other. Without efficient communication, parents cannot do much in helping children develop their EI. To solve this problem, the parties of conflicts have to put themselves in the other’s position. More importantly, I think, parents should not talk to children as if they hold the full power and children have no choices but just to follow them. They can share their different ideas instead of trying to force the other to accept their own ideas unwillingly. My suggestion is to try to talk with each other more patiently, amicably and sincerely.

2007年9月9日星期日

WHU vs NUS


So far, I have studied in two universities, my home university, Wuhan University (WHU) and National University of Singapore (NUS), they are strikingly different in many ways. Firstly, the physical size of each university is obviously different. WHU occupies a large area of 336 square meters, with four campuses, whereas NUS is about half of the size, having an area of about 150 square meters, with its three principal campuses. Another difference is in the size of population of each. WHU has more than 38,000 students studying in it and most are living in campus, but NUS has a population of around 26,000. In terms of the international degree of education, they are also quite different. In WHU, among all the students, only less than 1,000 are international student. And lecturers and professors are mainly from China. By contrast, in NUS, more than 20% students are from hundreds of foreign countries, and the lecturers and professors are from all over the world. In addition, these two also differ in natural environment. WHU locates in the middle of China, extremely hot in summer and very cold in winter. While NUS is in the tropical part, weather here changes slightly but receives much rainfall, neither too hot nor too cold. As a result of the different weather, in WHU, it is green in spring and summer with trees surrounding, golden in autumn with falling leaves and white in winter with snow flying, while in NUS, it is green warm all the year round.